You’ve been there. You know exactly how long it will take you to drive down to the place of your appointment. You know the traffic pain points on the way. You know exactly when to leave so that you arrive at the right time. And yet you laze in your couch until the last minute and end up being five minutes late. No matter how many times you replay this tape, the ending is the same. You’re late.
Today we look at the top four reasons why you may be a compulsive latecomer.
1. You enjoy the attention. Make an entrance. Breathlessly describe to the group why you couldn’t help but be late, how the world conspired against you. For that moment you will be in the spotlight, and you may even get smiles and nods from those who don’t know that you make a habit of it.
2. Latent guilt. You feel guilty about some other thing and you use coming late sub-consciously as a reason to ask for forgiveness.
3. You’re indifferent. Empathy is not your strong suit. You simply do not understand other people’s needs and the importance of their time. You’re egocentric, and you’re so caught up in thinking of your own preferences that you don’t have a perspective of others.
4. You enjoy waiting for others, so you think others will enjoy waiting for you. Let’s face it. Today’s world is busy, and all of us quietly welcome those little unexpected windows of solitude. Maybe you enjoy it so much that you wish to give others the same feeling by coming late.